🏡 How Buying a Home Is Like Dating (And How to Avoid the Red Flags)
Let’s be honest—buying a home isn’t just a financial decision. It’s an emotional one, too. Much like dating, it’s about finding “the one.” And just like in dating, you’ll come across a few red flags along the way that could lead to heartbreak (or at least some serious buyer’s remorse).
At BrightSide Lending, we’ve seen the ups and downs of home buying, and we’re here to help you avoid the emotional pitfalls. Here’s how the journey of finding a home is eerily similar to dating—and how to make sure your next move is a match made in heaven.
💘 You Start With a “Type”
Just like you might have a type when it comes to people—tall, funny, into dogs—you probably have a “type” in homes too. Maybe you’ve always dreamed of a Craftsman bungalow, or you’re obsessed with modern condos downtown.
But here’s the thing: Your “type” might not be what you actually need.
Pro tip: Be open-minded. Sometimes the perfect home doesn’t check every box on your list—but it feels right. Prioritize the things that truly matter long-term, like location, affordability, and condition, over superficial features you can always update later.
🚩 Red Flag #1: Too Good to Be True
You found it. The home looks amazing online. The price is shockingly low. You’re in love.
But just like the person who’s “between jobs” and still lives in their parents’ basement—it might not be as perfect as it seems.
There could be hidden issues like water damage, outdated electrical systems, or a roof on its last leg. If the listing price is far below market value, there’s probably a reason. That’s why inspections and a solid lending pre-approval process exist—to make sure you’re walking into something stable, not a money pit.
Bottom line: Swipe left on too-good-to-be-true listings until you’ve done your due diligence.
🏃♀️ Red Flag #2: The Rush Job
Some sellers (and even buyers) want to move fast. In a competitive market, it can feel like if you don’t act immediately, you’ll lose your shot.
But just like jumping into a relationship after the first date, rushing into a home purchase can lead to regrets. You should feel empowered—not pressured—when making a decision this big.
Even if you do need to move quickly to make a competitive offer, you should still work closely with your realtor to ensure you’re not skipping key steps—especially the inspection. In many cases, you can still include an inspection contingency or do a pre-inspection, so you know what you’re getting into.
Don’t confuse urgency with recklessness. A home can look great on the surface and still have deal-breaking problems underneath.
💸 Red Flag #3: Financial Baggage
You wouldn’t commit to someone without knowing their history, right? Well, homes come with financial baggage, too.
We’re talking high property taxes, hidden HOA fees, deferred maintenance, or just a price tag that pushes your monthly payment to an uncomfortable place. The wrong financial fit can cause stress long after the honeymoon phase wears off.
At BrightSide Lending, we help you uncover these financial red flags before you’re locked in. We’ll guide you through the numbers so you understand the real monthly cost—and whether it fits your lifestyle and goals.
❤️ When It’s Right, You’ll Know
The best homes (like the best relationships) just feel right. They’re not perfect, but they’re perfect for you.
You feel safe there. You can see your future there. And most importantly, you can afford it without sacrificing your peace of mind.
🏡 Let Us Be Your Wingman
We help buyers like you find financing that fits—and avoid costly mistakes that could break your heart (or your budget). Whether it’s your first home or your forever home, BrightSide Lending is here to help you every step of the way.
📞 Let’s chat and get you pre-approved—no awkward first date required.
